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Friday, September 21, 2018

Today (Saturday) is Princeton’s Annual Children’s Book Festival & Free Museum Day at Area Museums

 

https://princetonlibrary.org/childrens-book-festival/ – meet more than 50 children’s and young adult authors – talk with them one-on-one & hear them read selections from their books

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Free Admission At 25 New Jersey Museums Saturday

Snag a free ticket to visit one of these New Jersey museums on Saturday Sept. 22.

If you're looking for a fun and free activity for the weekend, consider a trip to one of New Jersey's museums. Saturday, Sept. 22 is "Museum Day" and admission to more than 1,500 museums in the country, including 25 in New Jersey, is free.

"Museum Day" is an annual event put together by the Smithsonian Magazine and includes participating museums in all 50 states. According to the Smithsonian, participants can download one ticket per email address that provides free general admission for two people.

"Museum Day" is a one-day event only. To snag a ticket, just choose your museum from the list provided below:

Below are the participating museums in New Jersey:

You can also visit the Smithsonian Magazine website directly for tickets.

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RVCC Planetarium Sets Led Zeppelin Laser Concert, Children’s Programs, Star Shows in September

clip_image001The Raritan Valley Community College Planetarium in Branchburg is offering shows for all interests in September, including a Led Zeppelin laser concert, a star show based on the Magic Tree House book series, a laser concert for children, and a show that explains the mysteries of space.

WHERE: RVCC Planetarium, 118 Lamington Rd., Branchburg
TICKETS: $10 for one show, $16 for two shows on the same day.
For reservations and information, call 908-231-8805.
For additional information, visit www.raritanval.edu/planetarium.

The following programs will be offered:

Astronaut
WHEN: Saturdays, September 22 & 29, 7 p.m.
The exploration of space is the greatest endeavor that humankind has ever undertaken. But what does it take to become an astronaut? Experience a rocket launch from inside the body of “Chad,” a test astronaut. Then explore the amazing worlds of inner and outer space, from floating around the International Space Station to maneuvering through microscopic regions of the human body. The presentation is made possible with a grant from FirstEnergy Foundation. (Recommended for ages 10 and older)

Led Zeppelin laser concert
WHEN: Saturdays, September 22 & 29, 8 p.m.
Audience members are treated to some of Led Zeppelin’s hits, including “Battle of Evermore,” “Kashmir,” and of course “Stairway to Heaven,” while lasers “dance” across the dome overhead.

Magic Tree HouseMagic Tree House: Space Mission
WHEN: Saturday, September 29, 3 p.m.
Young star gazers join Magic Tree Housecharacters Jack and Annie as they discover the secrets of the Sun, Moon, planets, space travel and more. Who can help them answer the questions posted by the mysterious “M”? The show is based on the same-titled, best-selling series of novels. (Recommended for ages 5 and older)

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WHEN: Saturday, September 29, 4 p.m.
The show features an updated list of songs that entertains kids and kids at heart while lasers dance on the dome overhead. Songs include “Try Everything,” from the movie Zootopia, “YMCA” by the Village People, and “Everything is Awesome” from the Lego Movie. (Recommended for ages 6-12)

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3 “SPELLING BEE” DISCOUNTS @ THE THEATER PROJECT

If you can read this, thank a teacher for getting you a discount!

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Three SPELLING BEE discounts:

  • $5 off any regular ticket for anybody
    when you purchase by Oct 1.
    Discounts cannot be combined.

For TEACHERs only:

  • Free and $2 Tix for Teachers / School Staff w/ID,
    OPENING NIGHT OCT 12 ONLY!
    Order online with $2 service charge, or take your chances at the door and pay nothing—either way, present ID at box office before the show.

  • NJEA Members with ID:
    $7.50 off full-price tix for any performance,
    purchase at any time.
    Present ID at box office before the show.

TICKETS: TheTheaterProject.org

THE 25TH ANNUAL PUTNAM COUNTY SPELLING BEE
Book by Rachel Sheinkin
Music by William Finn
Directed by Greg Scalera

This production is made possible by two companies pooling resources:
Bullet Theatre Collaborative and The Theater Project.

Adult actors play an eclectic group of mid-pubescents vying for the spelling championship of a lifetime. While candidly disclosing hilarious and touching stories from their home lives, the tweens—and some volunteers from the audience—spell their way through a series of (possibly made-up) words, hoping never to hear the soul-crushing "ding" of the bell signaling a mistake.

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Thursday, September 13, 2018

Cultivating Grit and Kindness in Our Kids

Link to ALSC Blog Reblogging from ALSC (Association for Library Service to Children)

How To Inspire Kids To Change the World by Katarina Wallentin

Who are the people that truly change the world?

For me it is the people who dare to think bigger, bolder, beyond and definitively different.

The text in the famous Apple ad actually puts it rather well… “Here’s to the crazy ones. The misfits. The rebels. The troublemakers. The round pegs in the square holes. The ones who see things differently. They’re not fond of rules. And they have no respect for the status quo. You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them. About the only thing you can’t do is ignore them. Because they change things. They push the human race forward. And while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius. Because the people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world, are the ones who do.”― Rob Siltanen

So how can we, as adults, inspire and encourage the uniqueness and difference in the kids that may change the world?

Let me use my nephew as an example. He is 8 years old, absolutely brilliant, incredibly funny and what many would call…slightly crazy.

From his very early years, he has been exploring the world with an unsatisfiable appetite. He put matches in the toaster to see if it will explode, he drilled a little hole in his stomach when he was checking if the drill could be used as a massage stick and one day he decided to hitch-hike all the way home from school since his legs got very tired of biking.

I absolutely adore this child, and he continues to amaze me. In addition to his explorative nature, he is kind and caring and an incredibly smart kid. It is a joy to try to keep up with his ideas and I must admit, I am often many, many steps behind him.

My nephew is a dragon child. I know he will change the world – somehow.

And whenever I meet a dragon child, I try to empower her or him to:

#1 Trust their knowing

Kids know. They are like big radio receivers, picking up everything around them, the spoken and unspoken. And their perception is not yet filtered by all the projections, expectations, separations and judgments that most adults see the world. That means that they are often more right on than we are…

One of the greatest gifts you can give kids (and yourself) is ask them questions and trust their point of view and suggestions for what is going on, and what is required.

#2 Keep coloring outside the lines

We often try to show kids the right way of doing things – for example how to carefully color inside the lines in a coloring book. But really, that is just the way it has been done up till that moment! What if we instead get excited by all the different ways a task could be accomplished?

What if the wackiest ways of coloring, is the very beginning of a whole new way of painting, never before seen on this Earth?

#3 Stay weird

It can get very lonely being different. Sometimes it may seem easier to just shut that unique part off and fit in with everyone else. The choice to stay weird is a brave one. It takes immense courage. It can help to hear that now and then – to know that someone has your back.

This world of ours is not yet the best of all possible worlds. Our children have the capacity to change it into something greater. Our job is to inspire them to know that they can!

Katarina Wallentin is an avid explorer of the magic that is truly possible on this beautiful planet of ours. For over 10 years, she worked with communication and leadership in international organizations such as United Nations, Amnesty International, Doctors Without Borders and Save the Children — continuously seeking for something greater and different for and in the world. Now an Access Consciousness facilitator, she has written two books for empowering children: The Baby Unicorn Manifesto and Clara & The Climate Changer. Coming soon: The Baby Dragon Manifesto!

The post How To Inspire Kids To Change the World appeared first on ALSC Blog.

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Growth mindset is a hot topic right now, which is understandable as everyone wants their child to understand how working through struggles no matter what the setbacks can bring success and satisfaction. This list of growth mindset books for kids will help you start a conversation about the difference between fixed and growth mindsets.

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Read the list here: www.whatdowedoallday.com/growth-mindset-books-for-kids/

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Excellent article on how we can cultivate grit, perseverance, and self-control in our kids: http://www.costcoconnection.com/connection/201809?pg=47#pg47

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Child of Holocaust survivor founded company called KIND http://www.costcoconnection.com/connection/201809?pg=91#pg91 
and now also runs empatico.org to connect classrooms across the world.

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Take your kids to this local museum exhibit to reinforce these life lessons:  Illustrations by Lulu Delacre for Sonia Sotomayor’s Life Story at Zimmerli MuseumThis Fall

The Art of Turning Pages: Illustrations by Lulu Delacre for Sonia Sotomayor’s Life Story

WHEN: September 15, 2018, through March 17, 2019
WHERE:
Zimmerli Art Museum, 71 Hamilton Street (at George Street) on the College Avenue Campus of Rutgers University in New Brunswick. The Zimmerli is a short walk from the NJ Transit train station in New Brunswick, midway between New York City and Philadelphia.
ADMISSION: free
To schedule a class or group tour, please contact the Education Department (education@zimmerli.rutgers.edu) at least two weeks in advance.

In conjunction with U. S. Supreme Court Justice Sonia Sotomayor’s first memoir for young people, the Zimmerli Art Museum at Rutgers is pleased to announce the opening of The Art of Turning Pages: Illustrations by Lulu Delacre for Sonia Sotomayor’s Life Story.

Justice Sotomayor shares her inspiring story about growing up and her deep love of reading in Turning Pages: My Life Story, which will be published by Philomel Books on September 4, along with a Spanish version, Pasando páginas: La historia de mi vida.

The exhibition features nearly 30 objects on loan from award-winning children’s author and illustrator Lulu Delacre, including her oil and collage art, preparatory drawings, and research material, on public view for the first time. Bilingual labels, in English and Spanish, accompany the works. Ms. Delacre will speak at Art After Hours: First Tuesdays on October 2.

“Justice Sotomayor is a role model for people all over the world who dream to make a difference,” said Nicole Simpson, the Zimmerli’s Assistant Curator of Prints and Drawings, who organized the exhibition. “In Turning Pages, she is a powerful advocate for the importance of reading, demonstrating how early exposure to books can transform a person’s life. Likewise, Lulu Delacre reveals through her captivating illustrations how art can tell a moving story…”  Read more » http://www.njartsmaven.com/2018/09/illustrations-by-lulu-delacre-for-sonia.html

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Speaking of inspirers: Dav Pilkey, a dyslexic himself, encourages kids to read with his humorous books.http://www.costcoconnection.com/connection/201809?pg=107#pg107

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Looking for things to do this weekend?

FREE STORYTELLING FESTIVAL IN HOPEWELL SEPTEMBER 15

 

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WHEN: Saturday, September 15, 12:00pm to 6:00pm  Age: ages 3-103
WHERE
: Howell Living History Farm, 70 Woodens Lane, Hopewell Twp.

Please be sure to wear comfortable shoes and bring a refillable water bottle. Water pumps are available for your use. Food items will also be available for purchase.
Festival will be held rain or shine. For info: www.njstorynet.org or www.howellfarm.org.

Former Bridgewater Children’s Librarian Carol Simon Levin will be performing interactive farm stories and songs from 1:15-1:50.

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See ‘Ewes’ at the New Jersey Storytelling Festival!
Join talented tellers from throughout New Jersey and the tri-state area Saturday, September 15, for the 26th New Jersey Storytelling Festival and hear a whole new crop of stories cultivating good times for all ages at

The fun begins the Story Slam from noon to 1 p.m. Contestants are chosen at random to recount a 5 minute-or-less personal tale on the theme of “Chicken!” A continuous rotation of tellers will perform throughout the farm from 1 to 5 p.m., followed by the festival’s signature close, the Lightning Round, in which tellers will tell tales no longer than 2 minutes in quick succession, from 5 to 6 p.m.


Before the festival, noted storyteller Rona Leventhal will explore storytelling techniques and strategies for a variety of applications in a morning workshop entitled “It’s Your Story—Tell It!” The workshop is free and open to the public but registration is required as seating is limited.

There is also a workshop in the morning for older kids, teens & adults:

It's Your Story—Tell It!

WHEN: Saturday, September 15, 2018, 9:30 to 11:30 AM
WHERE:
Visitors Center/The Barn
REGISTER HERE

In pairs and individually, Rona will guide you through lively writing and speaking exercises that will add details, imagery, and interest to your tale. For educators, these techniques can be modified for any grade level to motivate and encourage students to believe in their ability to create their own stories too.

In this workshop, participants will:

  • Use story prompts to add sensory details and to visualize a story scene.
  • Brainstorm sensory information to clarify thinking and build the elements of a story.
  • Write for short bursts of time and then tell to a partner and get feedback, so anecdotes begin to take on a narrative line.
  • Have an optional chance to perform their story for the group.

As a workshop leader, Rona is applauded for her warm and enthusiastic spirit, supportive nature, and inspiring talent. As a certified teacher, she is passionate about bringing literacy to students in an exciting and accessible way. Visit her website: www.ronatales.com

Participants will earn 3 professional development credits. The workshop is free, made possible by the Friends of Howell Living History Farm. It will run promptly from 9:30 a.m.-11:30 a.m. in the Visitor’s Center of Howell Farm. Please arrive 15 minutes early to procure a seat and bring a notebook and writing utensil. The workshop is handicapped accessible. Food and drinks will be available for purchase at the festival.

For questions or concerns, contact MaryAnn Paterniti: maryann.paterniti@ gmail.com

Note: Three Professional Development credits will be awarded to educators for attending the workshop and story performances of the NJ Storytelling Festival.

FALL HARVEST FEST THIS SUNDAY @ FOSTERFIELDS

Morris County Park Commission

FALL HARVEST FEST

Fall Harvest Fest

WHEN: September 16, 12 noon - 5 p.m.
WHERE: Fosterfields Living Historical Farm, 73 Kahdena Road, Morris Township
ADMISSION: $8 per adult, $7 per senior (65+), $6 per child age 4 - 16, and $4 per child age 2 & 3. FREE for children under age 2.

Spend the day at Fosterfields at one of Morris County’s most popular fall festivals! Hop aboard the open-air wagon for a scenic ride around the farm, visit the friendly farm animals, enjoy live music, and more! Fun for the entire family! Check it out here.

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Wednesday, September 5, 2018

Encouraging Creativity & Independence in Our Children–Ideas and Events in Our Area

This week, I heard about this new board game this week “called Starting Lines… a starting line is selected…. Every player has two minutes to change that line into a drawing with a caption — a curly-que becomes the snout of a dog, two parallel lines become the shape of a truck, circles become hot air balloons.… creators Adam and Meghan Owenz…created the game to be more than just a laugh. It's actually good for your kids' brains. And yours, too.”

"Creativity is a muscle," said Adam, a marketing professor at Albright College. "Grow your own and give your kids a chance to flex theirs and maybe we'll start to see an increase in creativity."  Read more.

I was reminded of the program I did at Bridgewater Library last year where we did something very similar (without the formal board game) Picture This: Keith Haring: Characters at Play and it is something you can easily replicate at home.

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If you want to explore other ways to encourage creativity in your children, check out more ideas at https://carolsimonlevin.blogspot.com/search/label/Creativity.

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Creativity will be celebrated this Saturday in West Orange at this free event
The Valley Goes Eco—Free Community Event

The Valley Goes Eco:  Upcycle, Recycle, and Go Green!

FREE Classes and Performances | All Ages Welcome!

WHEN: Saturday, Sept. 8 | 2-5pm
WHERE:
Luna Stage, 555 Valley Road, West Orange

Improvisational Theatre Workshops  2:30-4:30pm

Workshops for all ages, led by our local Luna Stage teaching artists. These 20-minute sessions will allow you to hone your skills in improv (the art of making something from nothing!), and have a blast as well!

Performances by Tiny Box Theater  2-5pm

Tiny Box Theater is an innovative company that makes plays inside of small re-purposed boxes. The Curiosity Shop takes place in a 1890s Victorian cash register till and Seed Money is staged in a 1950s budget box. The pieces can be viewed by one or two people at a time for a few minutes each, and invite audiences to get close, listen carefully, and find themselves in part of the piece.

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Luna actors read the picture book edition of The Boy Who Harnessed The Wind, a true story of human inventiveness and its power to overcome adversity. With old science textbooks, scrap metal, bicycle and tractor parts, William embarks on a plan to build a windmill in Malawi.

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  • Re-purposed Fashion Designs with Arshad Aziz
  • Mosaic Art from China Shards Mosaic
  • Bottle Art with the West Orange Garden Club & Our Green West Orange

Watch The Ocean Cleanup Live Launch

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Or you can spend the day at a ecology rally & festival in Morristown:

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Find the event on FB at https://www.facebook.com/events/2069700243348283/ and register you and your friends on Eventbrite at https://www.eventbrite.com/e/rise-for-climate-jobs-and-justice-tickets-49346490682.

Thanks to Ruth Ross at njartsmaven.com for these events.  That is one of the many websites linked  on the “Useful Links for Families” you can access on the right side of my blog at http://bwlibys.blogspot.com/

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Join me on September 15th as I tell stories at The NJ Storytelling Festival
details at: http://www.njstorynet.org/about-festival/
(My set will be on from 1:15-1:45)

Adults may also be interested in the morning workshop:

It's Your Story--Tell It! http://www.njstorynet.org/workshop-registration-2018/

Saturday, September 15, 2018                             9:30 to 11:30 AM                       Visitors Center/The Barn

Think you don’t have any personal stories worth telling? You’d be surprised. In her interactive workshop, “It’s Your Story—Tell It!” master storyteller Rona Leventhal will show you how to begin the process of taking a memory or anecdote and turning it into a story fit for an audience.

In pairs and individually, Rona will guide you through lively writing and speaking exercises that will add details, imagery, and interest to your tale. For educators, these techniques can be modified for any grade level to motivate and encourage students to believe in their ability to create their own stories too.

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Looking ahead: This fall, you can also take your kids to an exhibit at the National Museum of American Jewish Culture in Philadelphia on one of the great creative people – Rube Goldberg

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The Art of Rube Goldberg   October 12, 2018 through January 21, 2019

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Another way to encourage creativity is to visit artists’ studios and get to talk with the artists. Take your kids and go on an art tour of Somerset County:

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https://www.artseenj.org/artsee-new-jersey-artist-studio-tour/

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Do you or your kids want to learn art techniques from practicing artists? Farmstead Arts in Basking Ridge is registering for fall classes.

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Or encourage an appreciation of music? Last week was the 100th Anniversary of the great musician’s birth: a tribute to Leonard Bernstein’s Young People’s Concerts

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Is your child fascinated by snakes, magic, anime, robotics, model airplanes, bee keeping, jumping rope, cooking, art, astronomy or just about anything else? Somerset County 4-H probably has a club for them!
See all the opportunities
here.   http://www.somersetcounty4h.org

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You can also support the 4-H (and/or clean out your basement) at their annual rummage sale – donations start Sunday Sept. 9th:

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To Raise Confident, Independent Kids, Some Parents Are Trying To 'Let Grow'  Heard on Morning Edition

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Walking through the woods alone can be a scary prospect for a kid, but not for 7-year-old Matthew of Portland, Oregon. He doesn't have much of a backyard at his condo, so the woods behind his house essentially serve the same purpose. He spends hours out there: swinging on a tire swing, tromping across the ravine to a friend's house, and using garden shears to cut a path. He lays down sticks to form a bridge across the small stream that flows in the winter.

And he does all of this without any adult supervision.

Matthew's mom, Laura Randall, wants her son to gain the sort of skills and confidence that only come with doing things yourself. But she didn't just toss her 7-year-old out the door with some hiking boots and garden shears one day. They worked up to it gradually with what Randall calls "experiments in independence."  Read More.

More ideas on successfully turning kids into grownups can be found in this series of Ted Talks:  https://www.npr.org/programs/ted-radio-hour/600090006/turning-kids-into-grown-ups.

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The Bridgewater Raritan Education Foundation supports our kids and you can support the foundation at their fundraising dinner October 15th. All funds raised go to support grants for local educators and scholarships for district students. Tickets are available here.

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More good ideas for the new school year: https://www.nytimes.com/guides/smarterliving/family-technology

One more date to save:

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Make a vibrant connection to history at Somerset County’s 13th annual Weekend Journey through the Past

Visit 30 significant historic sites, all open to the public, free of charge. All participating sites are open on Saturday, October 13 from 10 a.m. to 5:00 p.m. and Sunday, October 14 from Noon to 4:00 p.m.

Explore Somerset County’s quaint villages, rolling farmsteads, lively towns and unspoiled natural areas. Participating historic sites will be grouped into three convenient tours by location: Northern, Central, and Southern Somerset County.

Learn about former Somerset County residents, some of whom were distinguished statesmen and national leaders.

Witness what life was like 50... 100... or even 200 years ago, from daily work responsibilities and pleasant pastimes to the difficult hardships endured during the American Revolution.

Discover our many and varied individual Revolutionary War histories—major contributions to the County’s designation as a Crossroads of the American Revolution State Heritage Area.

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Speaking of Fall – enjoy this list of September Read-Alouds from one of my favorite book sites: https://www.whatdowedoallday.com

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https://www.whatdowedoallday.com/september-read-alouds/

And her great list of diverse books for young readers…

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https://www.whatdowedoallday.com/diverse-books-2nd-3rd-grade

Want to keep up your kids math skills as well – visit

 http://bedtimemath.org/category/daily-math/ for an interesting daily math problem.

Labor Day may mean the end of summer break, but we can keep eating ice cream -- and those ice cream trucks can keep rolling. Our friend Lisa B. asked, how many ice cream bars and popsicles does a truck sell in a day? Well, it depends where the truck goes. From our own experience, at a park a truck can unload 20-30 bars to one crowd. If the truck finds 10 good places like that, it can sell 200 to 300 bars that day. Remember, around 100 years ago we didn't even have ice cream trucks. But in 1913 the electric freezer was invented, and in 1920 Harry Burt figured out how to coat ice cream in hardened dark chocolate. Suddenly people could sell ice cream from trucks. The driver pays less for the ice cream than he/she sells it for, so that's how the driver makes money - and that's where the math comes in.

Wee ones: Lots of ice cream bars look like rectangles. How many sides does a rectangle have? Is the floor of your room a rectangle?

Little kids: If a driver sells 4 ice cream sandwiches and 2 popsicles, how many ice cream treats is that?  Bonus: If he sells an orange popsicle, then a lemon, then a cherry, then orange, lemon, cherry...what flavor is the 11th popsicle?
Big kids: If they keep selling orange, lemon, cherry, then orange to repeat, what flavor is the 25thpopsicle? See if you can get it without counting up!  Bonus: If the truck sells twice as many treats at the second stop as at the first, and sells 60 total, how many did it sell at each stop?

The sky's the limit: If the driver buys each treat for $1, which way will make more money, selling 20 of them for $5 each or 30 of them for $4 each?

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How To Inspire Kids To Change the World by Katarina Wallentin
(from: https://www.alsc.ala.org/blog/2018/09/inspire-kids-to-change-the-world)

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Who are the people that truly change the world?

For me it is the people who dare to think bigger, bolder, beyond and definitively different. The text in the famous Apple ad actually puts it rather well…

“Here’s to the crazy ones. The misfits. The rebels. The troublemakers. The round pegs in the square holes. The ones who see things differently. They’re not fond of rules. And they have no respect for the status quo. You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them. About the only thing you can’t do is ignore them. Because they change things. They push the human race forward. And while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius. Because the people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world, are the ones who do.”― Rob Siltanen

So how can we, as adults, inspire and encourage the uniqueness and difference in the kids that may change the world?

Let me use my nephew as an example. He is 8 years old, absolutely brilliant, incredibly funny and what many would call…slightly crazy.

From his very early years, he has been exploring the world with an unsatisfiable appetite. He put matches in the toaster to see if it will explode, he drilled a little hole in his stomach when he was checking if the drill could be used as a massage stick and one day he decided to hitch-hike all the way home from school since his legs got very tired of biking.

I absolutely adore this child, and he continues to amaze me. In addition to his explorative nature, he is kind and caring and an incredibly smart kid. It is a joy to try to keep up with his ideas and I must admit, I am often many, many steps behind him.

My nephew is a dragon child. I know he will change the world – somehow.

And whenever I meet a dragon child, I try to empower her or him to:

#1 Trust their knowing

Kids know. They are like big radio receivers, picking up everything around them, the spoken and unspoken. And their perception is not yet filtered by all the projections, expectations, separations and judgements that most adults see the world. That means that they are often more right on than we are…

One of the greatest gifts you can give kids (and yourself) is ask them questions and trust their point of view and suggestions for what is going on, and what is required.

#2 Keep coloring outside the lines

We often try to show kids the right way of doing things – for example how to carefully color inside the lines in a coloring book. But really, that is just the way it has been done up till that moment! What if we instead get excited by all the different ways a task could be accomplished?

What if the wackiest ways of coloring, is the very beginning of a whole new way of painting, never before seen on this Earth?

#3 Stay weird

It can get very lonely being different. Sometimes it may seem easier to just shut that unique part off and fit in with everyone else. The choice to stay weird is a brave one. It takes immense courage. It can help to hear that now and then – to know that someone has your back.

This world of ours is not yet the best of all possible worlds. Our children have the capacity to change it into something greater. Our job is to inspire them to know that they can!

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Headshot of guest blogger, Katarina WallentinKatarina Wallentin is an avid explorer of the magic that is truly possible on this beautiful planet of ours. For over 10 years, she worked with communication and leadership in international organizations such as United Nations, Amnesty International, Doctors Without Borders and Save the Children — continuously seeking for something greater and different for and in the world. Now an Access Consciousness facilitator, she has written two books for empowering children: The Baby Unicorn Manifesto and Clara & The Climate Changer. Coming soon: The Baby Dragon Manifesto!

 

Do one thing every day that scares you ! – Eleanor Roosevelt

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Sunday, September 2, 2018

Back to School Edition–How to Ease School Jitters, Help Combat Bullying, The Power of Play & Empathy, Storytelling & Book Festivals, and One Simple Thing That Might Influence a Child for a Lifetime…

Hope everyone had a good summer!

Since my retirement from Bridgewater Library I have been travelling a great deal and doing a lot of freelance programs and so it has been a while since I posted to this blog. But I wanted to get the school year off to a good start. Leave a comment and let me know if this is still useful. I love to hear from you. Also please feel free to send me things I might share. – Carol Simon Levin

Three ways to ease your child’s back-to-school jitters By Mari-Jane Williams

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(Angel Chang/for The Washington Post)

It’s a familiar late-summer scene. As the opportunities to visit the pool and sleep late dwindle, the back-to-school jitters set in. The endless loop of questions — who will I sit with at lunch, will I remember my locker combination, will my teacher be nice — can rattle even the coolest of customers.

About 8 percent of children and adolescents have an anxiety disorder, according to the American Academy of Pediatrics. But kids don’t need to have a diagnosable disorder to feel a little nervous about heading back to school….here are some suggestions to help your child(ren) cope.

Sometimes the anxiety stems from real social stressors: Little mean girls: Helping your daughter swim in those choppy social waters By Carol Kaufmann for The Washington Post

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…I figured my daughter would eventually stumble into mean-girl territory, and that subversive manipulation, social rejection and alliance-building would leave her occasionally on the curb. But not until middle school, at the earliest. Right?

Wrong.

“The mean-girl thing is happening much sooner than everyone realizes,” our elementary school counselor told me when I called to talk it through. “I see it all the time.”

Bullying — or peer victimization — is “associated with depression and anxiety and social withdrawal and low self-esteem and academic problems,” says Catherine Bagwell, a professor of psychology who studies children’s social development at Oxford College of Emory University.

According to Katie Hurley, author of “No More Mean Girls: The Secret to Raising Strong, Confident, and Compassionate Girls,” research shows that severe bullying in childhood puts adolescents at a higher risk of mental-health issues, including suicidal thoughts and behaviors, debilitating depressive symptoms, and anxiety. And one survey in Oregon of nearly 12,000 kids in grades three through eight revealed that 41 to 48 percent of girls reported experiencing what is called “relational aggression” in a month. About 4 to 6 percent experienced it daily. Read more.

[How to help girls navigate tough social situations]

Bullying isn’t limited to schools & classrooms. White supremacist posters were posted in our area this summer. Here are some responses (printable copies available here) –  feel free to post and share:

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An important article on the Power of Play:
How to Play Our Way to a Better Democracy By Jonathan Haidt and Greg Lukianoff for The New York Times.

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If we want saner politics, we need to start building better foundations from the playground up.

Before he died, Senator John McCain wrote a loving farewell statement to his fellow citizens of “the world’s greatest republic, a nation of ideals, not blood and soil.” Senator McCain also described our democracy as “325 million opinionated, vociferous individuals.” How can that many individuals bind themselves together to create a great nation? What special skills do we need to develop to compensate for our lack of shared ancestry?

When Alexis de Tocqueville toured America in 1831, he concluded that one secret of our success was our ability to solve problems collectively and cooperatively. He praised our mastery of the “art of association,” which was crucial, he believed, for a self-governing people.

In recent years, however, we have become less artful, particularly about crossing party lines. It’s not just Congress that has lost the ability to cooperate. As partisan hostility has increased, Americans report feeling fear and loathing toward people on the other side and have become increasingly less willing to date or marry someone of a different party. Some restaurants won’t serve customers who work for — or even just support — the other team or its policies. Support for democracy itself is in decline.

What can we do to reverse these trends? Is there some way to teach today’s children the art of association, even when today’s adults are poor models? There is. It’s free, it’s fun and it confers so many benefits that the American Academy of Pediatrics recently urged Americans to give far more of it to their children. It’s called play — and it matters not only for the health of our children but also for the health of our democracy... 

Read more about how free play has been given short shift and what can be done to restore this essential component of children’s lives here: https://www.nytimes.com/2018/09/01/opinion/sunday/democracy-play-mccain.html

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Another way to combat bullying and encourage empathy is through books and storytelling. Here are three upcoming events that celebrate the power of story…

2018 NJ Storytelling Festival  Saturday, September 15  Howell Living History Farm

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Come listen to storytellers from throughout New Jersey and the Tri-State area at Howell Living History Farm as they regale visitors with a whole new crop of stories. There will be stories for all ages. I will be doing a set of farm-themed participatory stories and songs  starting at 1:20 p.m.  More info: http://www.njstorynet.org/about-festival/

https://princetonlibrary.org/childrens-book-festival/

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And finally, a piece on the positive power of words -- A friend posted this on Facebook:

To all my teacher friends out there - I don't know if this is a true story, but I hope it is. What a wonderful exercise... Please read, and put into practice if you're able:

imageOne day a teacher asked her students to list the names of the other students in the room on two sheets of paper, leaving a space between each name.

Then she told them to think of the nicest thing they could say about each of their classmates and write it down.

It took the remainder of the class period to finish their assignment, and as the students left the room, each one handed in the papers.

That Saturday, the teacher wrote down the name of each student on a separate sheet of paper, and listed what everyone else had said about that individual.

On Monday she gave each student his or her list. Before long, the entire class was smiling. 'Really?' she heard whispered. 'I never knew that I meant anything to anyone!' and, 'I didn't know others liked me so much,' were most of the comments.

No one ever mentioned those papers in class again. She never knew if they discussed them after class or with their parents, but it didn't matter. The exercise had accomplished its purpose. The students were happy with themselves and one another. That group of students moved on.

Several years later, one of the students was killed in Vietnam and his teacher attended the funeral of that special student. She had never seen a serviceman in a military coffin before. He looked so handsome, so mature.

The church was packed with his friends. One by one those who loved him took a last walk by the coffin. The teacher was the last one to bless the coffin.

As she stood there, one of the soldiers who acted as pallbearer came up to her. 'Were you Mark's math teacher?' he asked. She nodded: 'yes.' Then he said: 'Mark talked about you a lot.'

After the funeral, most of Mark's former classmates went together to a luncheon. Mark's mother and father were there, obviously waiting to speak with his teacher.

'We want to show you something,' his father said, taking a wallet out of his pocket 'They found this on Mark when he was killed. We thought you might recognize it.'

Opening the billfold, he carefully removed two worn pieces of notebook paper that had obviously been taped, folded and refolded many times. The teacher knew without looking that the papers were the ones on which she had listed all the good things each of Mark's classmates had said about him.

'Thank you so much for doing that,' Mark's mother said. 'As you can see, Mark treasured it.'

All of Mark's former classmates started to gather around. Charlie smiled rather sheepishly and said, 'I still have my list. It's in the top drawer of my desk at home.'

Chuck's wife said, 'Chuck asked me to put his in our wedding album.'

'I have mine too,' Marilyn said. 'It's in my diary'

Then Vicki, another classmate, reached into her pocketbook, took out her wallet and showed her worn and frazzled list to the group. 'I carry this with me at all times,' Vicki said and without batting an eyelash, she continued: 'I think we all saved our lists'

That's when the teacher finally sat down and cried. She cried for Mark and for all his friends who wouldn’t see him again.

The density of people in society is so thick that we forget that life will end one day. And we don't know when that one day will be.

So please, tell the people you love and care for, that they are special and important. Tell them, before it is too late.

Here are some other ideas for spreading kindness this year: https://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/teachers-on-how-they-spread-love-in-the-classroom_us_58cc1a4ae4b0ec9d29dbce61

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“May You Have a Sweet & Happy New Year”

– Carol Simon Levin